How I deal with comparison
And how to overcome it!
Oh comparison or the thief of joy as Theodore Roosevelt said. It’s so true. Why when we see someone doing well do we compare ourselves and our unique situation? It drives me bonkers and it’s taken (and still takes me) a good amount to stop comparing myself and my journey to others.
Let’s start at the beginning and why comparison happens.
Social comparison theory states that individuals determine their own social and personal worth based on how they stack up against others they perceive as somehow faring better or worse.
Which is pretty scary but it happens every second, ok, minute of the day with each and everyone of us and it’s a battle that we should be winning.
When we compare ourselves to others, and let’s just talk in a business sense here shall we, we are COMPLETELY forgetting each and everyones individual situations. How can we compare Jo Goody over there who started his business and is already profiting 1million dollars with ours when we started the same time but under TOTALLY different circumstance. It happens though right?
While self comparison can be used to help motivate us, foster self improvement 8 times out of 10 comparison is a negative belief system and one that I suggest you take a good hard look at whether you’re doing or not.
Here are a few things that you can practise to stop comparison and get rid of all that jealous anxiety that’s building because of it.
Start your day with this mantra “I am moving forward at my own pace and my own pace is my journey”
This will set you up for the day and start your mental attitude on the positive step straight away.
Becoming conscious of your comparison and self comparing thoughts.
Make sure you right them down. It makes for really interesting reading and you will be able to see how many times a day you compare, which could come as a shock.
3. When you’ve become conscious of the most common comparison thoughts create yourself little mantras that will take over.
For example if you always think “gosh she’s doing so well, why can’t I be doing that well” stop yourself and turn it around to “I’m so glad she’s doing so well, I’m so happy for her”. This instant switch will turn it from a negative to a positive and help you maintain a positive reaction rather than a negative reaction.