And why you should always celebrate a win
It’s not small thing babe you winning. Every single win is something to feel proud of no matter how “small” or “big”. I mean if we’re honest, what do those terms even mean? I know I’ve done some crazy jobs in the past that were awful but paid a hell of a lot and they didn’t feel like a win. But the small ones, helping independent brands felt like such big wins.
And I’ll be honest, I never used to celebrate them. I mean, I had loads and I just felt ok all the time, I felt like it was bad of me to celebrate them because it was being arrogant or picky or, well, I don’t know what.
But since getting back to work after Molly - 19months later, I’ve taken a completely different attitude and I would love to shift your mind too.
I want to paint a picture for you- I was always working, creating, coming up with ideas. Collaborating with so many amazing people and I just kept working. It was natural for me to have ideas and follow through. And then I had my kid and we moved country (half way around the world) and all of a sudden I don’t have the place to create, I didn’t have the same societal make up where freelancers and creatives exist. I was lost and stuck and felt so worthless if I’m honest.
Motherhood doesn’t suit me particularly. Well, I should rephrase that. I want more from my life to be a mum and I don’t do well staying at home with Molly being a mum. I thrive on challenges, ideas, doing, creating. That’s me.
So I’m 16months down the line and I’m struggling but I decide now is the time to take myself back. To reclaim my space. To reclaim my worth and yes, it means I won’t get to spend so much time with Molly and yes it means I’ll get judged but I’ll be honest, at this point I’m pretty much dying inside from lack of creativity and excitement and fun and ideas and collaboration. So I take some inward reflection and I find my passion again. I start and in the last two weeks I’ve had three big wins.
When I mean big I’m talking financially and emotionally. My soul passion has beee reaffirmed and I feel like I’ve come home to where I’m always supposed to be.
So today, I’m going to celebrate. I’ve taken myself out for lunch ($8,50 so hey 'I’m still watching my finances) and I’ve booked myself a manicure and pedicure. So I haven’t spent a fortune and celebrating doesn’t have to mean spending a fortune on yourself. But damn lady. I am celebrating because I want every single cell in my body to know how proud I am of how far I’ve come.
I want to remember this feeling because I know it’s going to drive me forward, drive me onto creating the life I want and dream of.
I came accross this on Patrick Edbald:
“Teresa Amabile from The Harvard Business School studies how everyday life inside organizations can influence people and their performance. When she and her associates designed and analyzed nearly 12,000 diary entries from 238 employees in seven companies they found something very interesting:
The efforts of tracking small achievements every day enhanced the workers motivation (2). Amabile explains that the practice of recording our progress helps us appreciate our small wins which in turn boosts our sense of confidence. We can then leverage that competence toward future, larger successes.”
So you see babe, keeping track of those small success and celebrating them boosts our confidence and self esteem and it makes us go for those bigger, juicier steps. FYI did you read my blog about confidence?
When we accomplish something, no matter how small, a little part of our brain gets activated and that in turn leads to us getting all sorts of boosters and neurons firing and it makes us happy, giddy, proud, elated and that in turn makes us strive for more. Kinda like how endorphins work!
And yeah babe, it might feel silly celebrating the small wins but what you’re doing is actually celebrating the change in your habits that are taking you on a clearer, more purposeful and aligned path and isn’t that, something worth celebrating?
I suggest creating yourself a Google Sheet and keep a weekly track of all the small wins babe.